Brad Pitt and Me

I just learned about a new group on Facebook called “It’s none of your business why we didn’t ‘just’ adopt from here.” 

While the group’s name might be seen as a little strident, I understand the sentiment. How many times have my husband and I been asked why we “didn’t just adopt from the United States?” So many that I’ve lost count. I’m not alone in this. Every adoptive parent I know who has adopted internationally has faced the same question. 

When we first started the adoption process with Olivia, I never dreamed I would one day be quoting Brad Pitt. But a few years ago I read an interview with him, and (predictably), he was asked “Why did you adopt from another country? There are so many children here who need homes.” Brad Pitt’s response rang so true that I remember it still: “Our children find us, wherever they are.” 


There is no one who believes in adoption more than I do. Without exaggeration, I can say that adoption is the greatest, most transforming experience of my life. The method by which people create families is an intensely personal choice. For my husband and me, that method was adoption from Guatemala. To become a parent is extraordinary, no matter how it happens. To paraphrase Mr. Pitt, children are miracles, wherever they come from.


Tags: , , , ,

8 Responses to “Brad Pitt and Me”

  1. Sveta says:

    This is so true! I like what you said about the method by which people create families being intensely personal choice. I think it is a good thing to keep in mind for all of us. Thank you.

  2. Jessica says:

    Thanks for the comment, Sveta.

  3. anjie says:

    And our hearts get so much bigger when we see beyond cities and states and countries. Our planet is our community. And children everywhere on the planet, in our community, need homes.

  4. Jessica says:

    Well said, Anjie. I couldn’t agree more. Thank you.

  5. Sharon says:

    Brad Pitt and Me…I like it.

  6. Jessica says:

    Doesn’t it sound good? :-)

  7. cynthia says:

    the no borders ethic can be epitomized through families coming together with love through adoption. Your tuning into cultural uniqueness brings a deeper connection of your intellectually open love.

  8. Jessica says:

    I appreciate your observation and point-of-view, Cynthia. Thanks.

Leave a Comment