Comments on: Talking About Adoption

By: Jessica

Jessica — Tue, 18 May 2010 19:13:27 +0000

Each child seems to start asking questions at a different time. Probably because of my book, we discuss the subject more than most. But from my other friends, I know it does and will happen–just a question of when. Any time you need to discuss, Joannie, I’m here!

By: Joannie

Joannie — Tue, 18 May 2010 18:32:38 +0000

I have tears in my eyes reading this. Timmy asks very little so far, but, I know he will begin asking more as he gets older. I will be coming to you for advice!!!
Thank you for sharing your world!

By: Jessica

Jessica — Sat, 15 May 2010 13:55:53 +0000

Sarah, your comment made me cry. I love this sentence: “Mainly I find out who I am by how I am with my son.” Beautiful. Thank you for writing.

By: Sarah Reinhardt

Sarah Reinhardt — Sat, 15 May 2010 05:32:31 +0000

I seem to always get emotional when I read your blog. As an adult adoptee in my 40s, my adoption was just not discussed as a child. i was told about it, but that was all. My adopted parents divorced so I was raised by my father, who spoke even less about it. It wasn’t until these last years since my son was born that I’ve really focused on finding out who I am. Mainly I find out who I am by how I am with my son.

Thank you for being what you are to your kids. The world begins to heal with people like you!

By: admin

admin — Fri, 14 May 2010 17:28:03 +0000

You are welcome

By: Jessica

Jessica — Fri, 14 May 2010 16:33:57 +0000

How’s that for rapid response? Thank you, D!

By: admin

admin — Fri, 14 May 2010 16:27:53 +0000

Michelle,

I logged into the database and corrected it

Don’t you wish it was always the case

By: Jessica

Jessica — Fri, 14 May 2010 16:27:16 +0000

Sveta: that’s so nice to hear. Thank you! Also interesting about your “iceberg” topic. More and more, I realize every family has one; ours happens to be adoption. Good to remember.

Michelle: I really like your idea of letting Angelica guide you and respecting her limits. Allows her to come to conclusions in her own time. Re: your P.S. Maybe a typo that was deleted? Funny because I often put up blogs or FB postings only to realize 10 seconds later that I’ve deleted a word or misspelled something. Drives me absolutely crazy!

By: Michelle K.

Michelle K. — Fri, 14 May 2010 14:31:08 +0000

Ugh, your not you’re….sigh.

By: Michelle K.

Michelle K. — Fri, 14 May 2010 14:29:47 +0000

I like your iceberg analogy. I’ve never looked at it like that, but it’s so true!

Adoption talk is the norm in our house as well — it has to be, it’s written in my heart — it’s part of who we are as a family. Not talking of adoption and my children’s birth countries would be denying my children of the truth. Talking more makes things more normal – than keeping things behind a veil of mystery.

When it comes to birth family talk, I’ve learned to allow Angelica to guide me. She’s set limits and I respect those limits.

Thanks for being open and keeping it real.